I’m Kelsey Krebs - Owner & Lead Planner at Est. With Love Wedding Planning! I am a planner by nature, I enjoyed planning every minute of my own wedding and would LOVE to help you!
Should these wedding traditions be a thing of the past?
Many Wedding traditions our parents or grandparents did have changed over the years and aren’t as relevant in modern times. Here are some wedding traditions that Brides can abandon if they choose, and no one would be upset about!
Something old, Something new, Something borrowed, and Something blue
You’ve all heard of the saying, you need Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, and Something Blue. But do you know the origin of why you needed these things on your wedding day? Something Old represents the Bride leaving her old life, and something new signifies this new chapter in your life and the future that you’ll spend with your Husband. Something Borrowed should come from another happily married woman, which would hopefully carry the happiness onto the newlyweds, and something blue represents love and faithfulness in the marriage. If a family or Bride is superstitious or old-fashioned she may keep this tradition of having these items on the wedding day, but for many Brides, finding all of these items is just another thing on the “To-do list”. If you choose to forgo this wedding tradition, don’t worry your wedding will still be full of love and happiness!
Garter toss & Bouquet toss
These traditions are supposed to be all fun and games but, most ladies don’t want to go on the dance floor in heels jumping around to catch a bouquet and be reminded they are single. Have you ever been to a wedding to see all the guys running to the dance floor to catch a garter? No. They usually aren’t very enthusiastic about going to catch it. Deciding to ditch these traditions is becoming more and more popular, because many of the couple’s friends are already married or they want more dancing time, either way, it won’t be missed. But if you decide to carry on the tradition, have the DJ play a fun song and enjoy the silliness of this tradition!
Smashing the cake
I’m sure all your guests would love to see a cake smash and the funny photos you would get from it! But, most Brides wouldn’t be too happy about it. Between how much they spent on hair, make-up, and getting cake crumbs and the icing on her expensive gown…Not to mention she’ll be sticky the rest of the evening. I’d say skip this tradition or Grooms, at least make sure the Bride approves of the cake smashing! Most couples are ditching the large 3-tiered cake altogether and just doing a dessert bar! I’m in favor of the dessert bar, so much wedding cake gets thrown out at the end of every wedding!
The Bride’s family taking on the financial burden
According to tradition, it states that the Bride’s family should handle the bulk of the wedding expenses, which includes the Venue, Vendors, Dress, Photography, florals, and any other wedding-relating expenses. Today, the cost is often split between families and Bride & Groom or some couples pay for the wedding themselves.
So many people associate being engaged or married with a diamond ring. Yes, they’re beautiful, sparkly, and timeless. They are also expensive and for a Bride and Groom wanting something different, they may want to consider this. Brides are wanting anything from Sapphires, to Rubies, Emeralds, amethyst, and many others! Pick a diamond or pick something unique, you’ll be staring at it every day so make sure you love it!
A white dress and veil
Long white dresses are what everyone envisions for a bridal look, nowadays a bridal look can vary. Many Brides are preferring champagne-colored gowns over Ivory. There is also, blush, beige, and a new popular one- Black! Some brides are opting to do a cocktail dress instead of a gown to keep it casual or a Bridal jumpsuit. You can make these looks look more “Bridal” by adding a blingy headband, flower crown, or pretty hair piece instead of the traditional veil.
Not seeing each other before ceremony
Back in the day, you would never think of seeing your significant other before the Wedding Ceremony! Today, couples are deciding to do a “First look” after getting ready for many reasons. It helps calm the couple down with the pre-wedding jitters, you can have a private moment of seeing each other and share a special note or exchange wedding gifts at this time. And most importantly, you can get a lot of wedding photos out of the way before the wedding. Then once the Ceremony is over you just have the Bridal party, a few family shots, and Bride & Groom photos, and hopefully be able to make it to cocktail hour!
August 1, 2022